Jan Tincher –
http://www.tameyourbrain.com
Do you have walk-away power? Are you a parent, a boss, someone in charge of people?
Do you hate it when you end the conversation with words like *You”ll be sorry if you don”t do what I say!*? Or maybe you don”t say it, but you think it? Do you tell someone to do something and they don”t . . . and you explode? Do you say to yourself, *I knew that would happen!*?
How about trying walk-away power in these instances? After all, if you”re pretty sure they”re really not going to do it anyway — since you *knew it was going to happen like that* — at least give them the *option* to NOT react as you predict.
Why not rehearse this mentally? In your mind, run through a scenario where you were almost bursting a gasket when you told someone to do something, and you *knew* they weren”t going to.
Who was in control in that scenario? Not you, that”s for sure. Well, let”s do something about it.
Go stand in front of a mirror. Rehearse these two little words that could save your life. They are:
*Or not*.
Say them several times, until they become second nature to you.
Now, think about an instance that upset you. What would have happened if you had said *Or not*.
Here”s an example:
“I”d like _______________ by tomorrow afternoon.” *Or not.*
Do you feel the pressure dwindle? “Or not” is like an escape valve. Say “Or not” either in your mind or out loud and feel the pressure evaporate.
Let”s take a look at that. You”ve just given someone an order and you feel the conflict from them immediately. If there”s a conflict, that”s when you say “Or not” out loud. You can say it flippantly if you like, but I”ve found that if you look them in the eye and say “Or not” it makes them think. Give them an opportunity instead of an order.
Then, walk away. Now, what are the consequences? What happens if they don”t do whatever? Well, let”s look at it this way. What happened before when they didn”t?
I”ve found that people respond much better, and sooner, when given an option. If you are a *control freak*, this is especially for you.
You have to take care of yourself and release the pressure gauge. Use this method and feel your blood pressure slowly to back to normal.
Walk-away power is a must in almost any area. Why?
Simply because if you *care* too much, you lose. YOU are the one that feels the pressure, the anguish, whatever. Let whatever happens, happen. Then, deal with it.
Deal with it calmly and effectively. People will notice the change and do what they can to help. You”ll achieve a lot more than you know, and your doctor appointments will prove this out.
If you like this technique, pass it on to a friend. Watch as their life changes for the better. Both of you will breathe easier.
Thank you for reading.
Jan
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, Jan Tincher, Worldwide
DISCLAIMER: Jan Tincher and/or *Tame Your Brain!* do not guarantee or warrant that the techniques and strategies portrayed will work for everyone. The techniques and strategies are general in nature and may not apply to everyone. The techniques and strategies are not intended to substitute for obtaining medical advice from the medical profession. Always consult your own professionals before making any life-changing decisions.
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Jan Tincher, Master Neuro-Linguistic Programmer and
Hypnotherapist, has written many great articles on how
to succeed. Check them out here:
http://www.tameyourbrain.com/success/index1.htm
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