How to Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere, Part I

How to Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere, Part I
One of the most common questions I have gotten in my 11 years of
teaching Speed Seduction? is: what are some good and easy ways to meet women?
Recently, someone sent me an email, where, among other things, he said, “I hate going to clubs and bars, and at 35 years old, I
feel out of place in them anyway.”
Now, this is one of the most common questions I get. And it”s
good to see a guy up there in his 30s still pushing for what he
really wants.
Personally, as a 45 year old geezer who is as close to ugly as
you can get without getting your face banned by the FDA, I still
go for and GET women in their mid-20s (occasionally I will pull a
21-22 year old) and I never set foot in clubs.
But clubs or not, there ARE master keys for a guy of any age, to
be meeting women, anytime anywhere. And believe me, this skill IS
important.
You see, so many guys who are fixated on one girl, convinced SHE
is the woman of their dreams whom they must have would actually
dump her in a heartbeat if they knew they could go out and meet
10 hot women that same day they were pining over their “dream
girl” (who probably isn”t giving them any anyway).
Hey…I”m sorry if I seem flippant here. But the reality is the
skill of meeting women anytime, anywhere, is crucial to avoiding
what I call…Relationships By Default!
You see, it has long been a theory of mine that MOST men don’t
really wind up with the woman they really want. For most men,
“dating” is such a form of roll the dice/crap shoot/gambling that
they usually wind up settling for the woman who accidentally was
attracted to them instead of the woman or women they really want.
Does this sound familiar?
Hey-I”m sorry if this seems harsh to you, but I call “em like I
see “em.(And wow, did this ever get me booed and even physically
attacked when I used to spout it on talk shows way back in the
early and mid 90″s.
Anyway, enough rambling. What I”m about to introduce you to is
light years ahead of anything else out there, primarily because
IT DOES NOT RELY ON CANNED LINES.
Yes, lines can be useful. Yes, lines can work. And I”ll even give
you some that are actually quite good.
But the key to remember is, with any line, it is the ATTITUDE
that will determine how well the line works.
The Incredible Power Of Attitudes And Approach Positions
Basically then, there are 4 different attitudes or “approach
positions”
The first one I”d like to talk about is one of my very favorite,
and I call it “The Blurt Out”.
The Blurt Out pretty much is what it sounds like; you “blurt out”
whatever is actually going through your mind when you first spot
the lady who has your attention, without any “editing” on your
part (OK, here”s an exception: if your first thought is, “Damn, I
have to touch those breasts!” it”s probably best NOT to blurt
that out!!
What I like about the Blurt Out is that it is coming from a place
of vulnerability and sincerity. It”s almost like you are thinking
out loud, so women tend to automatically react without suspicion
and be much more open and friendly to your approach.
The Blurt Out also works because you are implying something about
your confidence, without saying it. What you are implying is,
“hey, I”m a sincere guy, with real guts. I”m telling you what I
really think, and I”m putting my head on the chopping block and
handing you the axe. Will you be a horrible person and a coward
and chop my head off or will you be as cool as me and be open to
talking?”
The Blurt Out tends to work best with women in motion; either
women who are walking directly toward you or women with whom you
are walking parallel/side to side.
Just as an example of the Blurt Out in action, I once met a very
hot 24 year old Canadian chick. I was in a parking structure for
a shopping mall. She was walking up the steps, as I was walking
down.
As I passed her I blurted out exactly what I was thinking in that
moment, which was, “Wow…you”ve got style to burn!” just as if
I was thinking out loud. She turned around, walked back down the
steps and SHE initiated the conversation and later invited me to
go get a beer.
That”s the key to this approach, again. Just blurt out whatever
you are thinking when you see her. Even if your thoughts happen
to be shy or fearful, express what you are thinking, as in, “I
realized if I kept hesitating, I”d never get to meet you and I”d
kick myself for a week. So I had to come up and say
SOMETHING…I”m…Your Name Here”
Can you see how totally sincere and disarming this approach could
be? Especially for very good looking women who keep having all
sorts of bullshit thrown their way.
The Blurt Out Plus The Implied Compliment
With an implied compliment, you don”t actually say that YOU think
the woman in question is hot or stylish or beautiful. You just
imply it by how you state it.
Here”s an example: walking around an outdoor mall, I spotted a
woman who just walked incredibly gracefully. So I walked beside
her and said, “It”s just that I really admire women who carry
themselves with grace and power…so I had to say “Hi”.”
See the implied compliment? I didn”t say it directly, I implied
it. I said I admired women with who carry themselves with grace
and power. Since I was talking to her, that must mean I think
that about her.
But HER mind had to fill in the blank and apply the compliment to
herself. Since this was an ACTIVE process involving her own mind,
it wasn”t perceived as coming from an outsider, but rather
something she herself thought. And so it goes in without
resistance!
This is a sneaky way to communicate, but you”ll learn a lot more
about the power of implication to move the thoughts, imagination,
and emotions of women in ways you can”t yet dream possible!
Approach Position Two: Observation, Comment or Question
The second approach position or attitude is what I call the
“observation, comment or question”. You can combine these with a
sense of humor or just do them straight up, and they work best in
a setting where neither you nor the woman is in motion, so you
have some time to make your observation.
The biggest advantage with these is they are non-threatening and
you don”t have to rely on anything canned to fit the situation.
(By the way, when thinking of something to say, one of the key
questions I”ll ask myself is, “What can I notice, observe or
intuit about this person that I can use to make a connection? A
good way to send your mind in the right direction).
Observations, comments and questions of course depend on the
situation ongoing, and I usually quickly follow them up with
something funny, often a put-on (which is our third approach
position or attitude, so we”ll get there in a minute).
Real life example: I was in a gas station, filling up my car. The
woman next to me was putting gas in her giant white Mercedes. I
said, “How do you like your Mercedes?” (See…simple question!)
Her response, “I love it. How do you like your SAAB?”
Ok, she”s answering back, so I know at least she”s friendly.
I said, “I like it.”
Then I jumped right to a put-on, which is an easy thing to follow
up any comment, observation or question.
I said, “It”s too short.”
She said, “What? The Mercedes. I think it”s pretty long.”
I said, “No, it”s too short.”
She said, “What is?”
I said,” Life…to hestitate…when you meet someone you think is
incredibly attractive.”
She smiled and said, “Thank you!”
I then playfully hit her on the shoulder and said, and I usually quickly follow them up with
something funny, often a put-on (which is our third approach
position or attitude, so we”ll get there in a minute).
Real life example: I was in a gas station, filling up my car. The
woman next to me was putting gas in her giant white Mercedes. I
said, “How do you like your Mercedes?” (See…simple question!)
Her response, “I love it. How do you like your SAAB?”
Ok, she”s answering back, so I know at least she”s friendly.
I said, “I like it.”
Then I jumped right to a put-on, which is an easy thing to follow
up any comment, observation or question.
I said, “It”s too short.”
She said, “What? The Mercedes. I think it”s pretty long.”
I said, “No, it”s too short.”
She said, “What is?”
I said,” Life…to hestitate…when you meet someone you think is
incredibly attractive.”
She smiled and said, “Thank you!”
I then playfully hit her on the shoulder and said, “I was talking
about ME!”
This got MORE laughter and then names were exchanged, and shortly
thereafter, phone numbers as well.
My point: observations, comments and questions can be followed up
with almost anything and combined with almost anything.
A favorite question opener of mine actually combines a question
with a compliment, as in, “Do you do a martial art? You carry
yourself with discipline and elegance…it”s a very rare and
attractive trait.”
By the way, when it comes to compliments to pick up women, I
prefer to IMPLY them or combine them with a question and I prefer
to strongly compliment a woman on how she moves or her “energy”.
For some reason these are lot more acceptable and less
threatening and perceived as more sincere than direct comments
about her looks.
Approach Position 3: The Put-On
Now we come to my favorite “approach position” the put-on.
The put-on is simply a humorous approach where you pretend
something to get her attention. For example, if a woman is
walking in my direction and is wearing a t-shirt with a logo or
design, I will look confused, point at the shirt and say, “I
don”t get it”.
Usually, the response is, “Don”t get what?” To which I always
say, “The shirt. What”s it mean?”
At this point, I almost always get an explanation from her about
the logo or symbol, to which my response is to pretend to
disagree and argue in the most ridiculous way.
Example: sitting in a yogurt shop, a young lady with very large
breasts walked in. She was wearing a tight t-shirt with a slogan
that said, “Free the Afghans!”.
I pretended that I thought the shirt was about Afghan DOGS.
You know…the shaggy haired, long-legged dogs you sometimes see
accompanying models in photo shoots?
I said, “Who is holding a bunch of dogs captive? Why do you want
to free them? Do you want more dogs to be strays?”
She tried explaining, and I kept misunderstanding. Then I made a
joke about being so good looking I didn”t need to be smart. Then
I introduced myself.
If you want a good idea of the overall attitude for this
approach, think of Bugs Bunny, or Groucho Marx, or Leslie Nielsen
from the “Police Squad” movies.
One more example of a put-on approach. I was sitting in a local
caf? and seated behind me was a very attractive young Asian
woman. I observed that she was thinking very hard, talking to
herself, trying to figure out her economics book.
So I turned to her and said, as seriously as I could, “Could I
ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker, and
I have very important writing to do.”
My friend, who was sitting across from me, said she couldn”t stop
looking at me after that and could not go back to studying!
I turned to her a minute later and said, “Look…I asked you nicely
not to think so loud! Don”t make me call the management!”
At that point, SHE began a conversation.
There are many, many ways to enjoy a put on. And you can combine
it with an observation as in this last example; my observation
about this girl was that she really was, “thinking loud”—she was
having trouble trying to figure out what she was reading and so
she WAS talking to herself, “Free the Afghans!”.
I pretended that I thought the shirt was about Afghan DOGS.
You know…the shaggy haired, long-legged dogs you sometimes see
accompanying models in photo shoots?
I said, “Who is holding a bunch of dogs captive? Why do you want
to free them? Do you want more dogs to be strays?”
She tried explaining, and I kept misunderstanding. Then I made a
joke about being so good looking I didn”t need to be smart. Then
I introduced myself.
If you want a good idea of the overall attitude for this
approach, think of Bugs Bunny, or Groucho Marx, or Leslie Nielsen
from the “Police Squad” movies.
One more example of a put-on approach. I was sitting in a local
caf? and seated behind me was a very attractive young Asian
woman. I observed that she was thinking very hard, talking to
herself, trying to figure out her economics book.
So I turned to her and said, as seriously as I could, “Could I
ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker, and
I have very important writing to do.”
My friend, who was sitting across from me, said she couldn”t stop
looking at me after that and could not go back to studying!
I turned to her a minute later and said, “Look…I asked you nicely
not to think so loud! Don”t make me call the management!”
At that point, SHE began a conversation.
There are many, many ways to enjoy a put on. And you can combine
it with an observation as in this last example; my observation
about this girl was that she really was, “thinking loud”—she was
having trouble trying to figure out what she was reading and so
she WAS talking to herself, internally, in her head, which is a
way of “thinking loud”.
Approach Position 4: Genuine Intuition
The final approach position is what I would call a genuine
intuition. This is more rare and harder to do. But did you ever
find yourself just looking at someone and you just KNEW that
person? Like something deep inside you connected with something
deep inside them and you just KNEW them?
In this case, when this happens, go with your intuition and tell
them what you observe. It”s close to an observation, but the
difference with this position is, it really isn”t something you
could pick up with your physical 5 senses.
This is advanced stuff that will come in time, so I wouldn”t
worry about it for now. But as an example, I was once sitting in
my favorite coffee place. As this beautiful blonde woman walked
in the door, I saw an image of her on stage, singing. So as she
walked by I just said, “How long have you been a singer?”
It totally blew her away. And a long conversation followed.
So if you have a strong intuition, just run with it and give it a
shot. It”s a bit risky, but when it works it has an incredible
impact.
Ok. That”s it for this issue. Next week we”ll continue to take up
this thread and tell you more great ways to meet women, anytime,
anywhere. Until then,
Peace and piece,
Ross
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