How to Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere (Part 2 of 2)
Last week, I was answering a question about how to meet women,
anytime, anywhere, and I had so much to say on the subject, I had
to continue it on to this week”s issue. So once again the
question being discussed is, “what are some good and easy ways to
meet women?”
I discussed a bit about 4 different “approach positions” and how
a good pick-up either rapidly jumps from one to another or is
somewhere between two positions, combining their attitude or
“energy”. (I don”t care if you don”t believe in energy
chicks
do!)
Since this is one of my favorite topics, let me continue on in
this issue and give you some more keys for meeting women.
And this is important as a skill, if for no other reason than to
avoid
“Relationship by Default” Syndrome.
In case you don”t know, that”s when a woman comes along who
accidentally happens to be attracted to you, ends your sexual
starvation, but you have to settle because maybe you don”t even
really like or want her.
Sad, but for many men so true, because they lack the crucial
skill of constantly bringing in new prospects.
Anyway, there are some fun-da-mental rules for making pick-ups
really effective and part of your daily reality.
Rule #1: Get yourself in the right frame of mind before you walk
out the door!
Ok….I”ve harped on this before in my seminars and products.
I”ll harp on it AGAIN. And I”ll harp on it till I”m dead and gone
and PLAYING a harp:
YOUR FRAME OF MIND IS CRUCIAL WHEN IT COMES TO MEETING AND
ATTRACTING WOMEN!!!
Understanding that allows you to also see the single biggest and
most common mistake guys make when it comes to meeting women, and
it is this:
They Are Relying On The Women Accepting Them To Make Them Feel
Good Instead Of Walking Up To Women With A Good Feeling First!
Listen: YOU must first learn how to produce good feelings in your
body and mind, and learn to enjoy the actual process of meeting
women (it CAN be done!) BEFORE you can get good results.
Otherwise, you are relying on the WOMAN to make YOU feel good.
And in that, case, no matter how clever the lines you say, who
really has the power?
She does. NOT a good thing.
So you MUST learn to produce good feelings and states for
yourself… BEFORE YOU EVEN WALK OUT THE FRIGGIN DOOR!
Now, listen. I”ve come up with plenty of tools for you to do this
and this is so important I”m going to make it a topic of at least
2 issues of this newsletter. For now, just keep the principle in
mind:
You Must Go First By FEELING Good FIRST Before You Even Walk Out
Your Door!
Like I said, there are ways to program your mind to do this, and
in future issues, I will go into great detail and show you
exactly how to do it.
For now though, one good way to do this is to make sure you have
a life going on with things you enjoy, besides women.
Invest yourself in hobbies, find things you love, make sure you
get adequate rest, and take care of your diet and physical health
Rule #2: Take into account and USE what the physical dictates and
layout of the situation in which you find yourself.
Ok. This is actually a simple concept.
Let”s say you”re a lucky s.o.b., and, like me, you live right by
a jog or bike path. Women are constantly skating, blading,
running or biking right by you. And let”s say further, that you,
like me, are a lazy son of a bitch and have no intention of
moving your own fat ass via bike, blades, running etc.
Now, given that physical aspect of the situation and your own
bone-deep sloth and aversion to movement, what do you have to do
in order to meet and talk to these women?
Well, Buckwheat, what ya first and foremost gotta do is… Ya
Gotta Get “Em To Stop!
That”s right. That beautimous and buxom babe in the halter top…
that luscious blonde with the jog shorts so tight, her
“camel-toe” is poking through the sheer fabric… they will never
be riding your trouser pole UNLESS YOU CAN GET THEM TO STOP!
With that in mind, I have actually USED the following approach
and ACTUALLY gotten it to work! I admit, as you read it, it seems
crazy, and it isn”t for beginners. It”s one of those “don”t try
this at home” unless you are a pro kind of things.
But it”s an illustration of an extreme example that does and can
work and if I”m out there doing something THIS wacky, surely YOU
can come up with something relatively sane by comparison.
Anyway
I merely wait for a nice looking young lady to come jogging,
blading or biking toward my stationary position along the path. I
then jump out, hold out a hand and in my most authoritative tone
yell:
STOP! (This is actually pretty funny to watch. I have never had
them NOT stop!)
I then say something like, “If you”re that easily stopped… you
need a boyfriend who will MOTIVATE you! My name is Ross”.
Now, at this point, I bring into play…
Rule #3: Verbally Pace the Ongoing Situation
I cannot emphasize enough the power of this VERY important rule.
Basically, what it means is to verbally describe and therefore
ACKNOWLEDGE the situation and reality that she finds herself in
with you.
In the example above, where I”ve just jumped in her path and
yelled “STOP”, what do you think this girl is thinking?
It”s a safe bet it is something along the lines of “this guy is
fuckin” nuts”!
So I better USE that instead of ignoring it.
I say something along these lines, “Look….I know this is a
totally nutty way to meet someone (pacing her ongoing belief)…
but I knew if I didn”t do SOMETHING to stop you, we”d never get a
chance to talk (also completely true…a truism with which she
cannot argue) and maybe see how much WE COULD REALLY LIKE EACH
OTHER (embedded suggestion).
The principle here is VERY important. And that is…
BY DEMONSTRATING UNDERSTANDING, YOU INCREASE RAPPORT!
Now, let me make something critically clear: I did NOT say
demonstrate that YOU are “understanding, sensitive” etc.
I said demonstrate “understanding” of her ongoing reality and
situation. Not in the sense of apologizing or excusing but simply
that you are alert and AWARE of who she is and what she is
experiencing. You then proceed to lead her where you WANT her to
be!
Now, back to the idea of using the physical layout of where you
are going to be meeting women:
Let”s say you are going to meet women in a coffee house or
restaurant, two of my favorite places.
It”s important to be aware of the physical lay-out of the place.
As an example, when I go to the Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf, which
has many branches here in L.A., I survey the place and try to
find what I call “the catbird seat”.
In case you don”t know, the “cat bird” is the bird in the flock
that is always given the high ground and best perch. Why?
Because it is his job to stay on the look out for the cat and
warn all the other birds that it is time to take off!
So when I walk into a Coffee Bean (or any other place like it) I
always look for the seat in the place that will give me the best
view of anyone who walks in the door. This means I can see anyone
who is standing in line, and make eye contact with them for a
sustained period of time.
If you are sitting in a restaurant, a good idea is to sit at the
bar at a spot near the take out order spot, if you can and if
they have one.
As an example, the California Pizza Kitchen restaurant chain
almost always will have a take out spot or window inside the
restaurant, right near the bar where you can sit and eat.
This way, you can easily talk to and meet every woman waiting in
the take out line, which can be huge at the right time of day.
Is this simple and is this making sense. I know it might seem too
easy, but little things like this can make a huge difference.
One other example before we move on-at a party, the best spot to
hang out is right by the bathroom. Women have notoriously small
bladders when they are drinking a lot, and almost every girl
there is going to have to get into your space sooner or later if
you park your horny ass near the bathroom!
Now let me round this issue off by talking about
MY FAVORITE PLACES TO MEET WOMEN!
As I”ve said before and will say again, I usually avoid going to
“singles” type places to meet women. That includes clubs, singles
bars, etc.
I”m aware that some guys love, even excel at these places, and
more power to them, but for the most part, I avoid them.
Why? Well, first of all, and make eye contact with them for a
sustained period of time.
If you are sitting in a restaurant, a good idea is to sit at the
bar at a spot near the take out order spot, if you can and if
they have one.
As an example, the California Pizza Kitchen restaurant chain
almost always will have a take out spot or window inside the
restaurant, right near the bar where you can sit and eat.
This way, you can easily talk to and meet every woman waiting in
the take out line, which can be huge at the right time of day.
Is this simple and is this making sense. I know it might seem too
easy, but little things like this can make a huge difference.
One other example before we move on-at a party, the best spot to
hang out is right by the bathroom. Women have notoriously small
bladders when they are drinking a lot, and almost every girl
there is going to have to get into your space sooner or later if
you park your horny ass near the bathroom!
Now let me round this issue off by talking about
MY FAVORITE PLACES TO MEET WOMEN!
As I”ve said before and will say again, I usually avoid going to
“singles” type places to meet women. That includes clubs, singles
bars, etc.
I”m aware that some guys love, even excel at these places, and
more power to them, but for the most part, I avoid them.
Why? Well, first of all, I”m now 45 years old. And I just look
totally out of place.
Just as important: they are noisy and I don”t want to shout to be
heard. My voice is my livelihood and my instrument, damn it. Also
they are loaded with DRUNKEN people, and no offense to you if you
are bit buzzed reading this, but I HATE BEING AROUND DRUNK
PEOPLE!
Finally, it is exactly in these kinds of places that women are
extra suspicious and EXTRA on guard. And in a club or bar, many
otherwise friendly and nice women believe.
THEY HAVE A LICENSE TO ACT LIKE C**TS!
Don”t get me wrong. What I teach CAN and DOES work in these
places. I just don”t go there and don”t recommend that you do
either.
Ok. So here are some of my favorite places where I go and where I
recommend YOU go to meet women:
Restaurants with attached bars.
These places are often great Tues-Thursday nights, around 6-8:30
PM. Especially upscale places, they cater to a professional
crowd. Some VERY nice looking women looking to unwind after work.
Also often these places serve as a meeting ground for women
having bachelorette parties.
Coffee houses like Starbucks, Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf, etc.
Great from 8-10:30 AM every day of the week. After 9am you are
more likely to get women who work in retail, outside sales like
pharmaceutical reps, self-employed, students etc.
Supermarkets- M-F noon to around 1:30 PM.
Women on their lunch hours pop into buy things. M-Thurs 6-830 PM.
Sat 10AM-noon, same for Sundays.
Shopping Malls
This is a no-brainer. If they have a good food court and are near
offices, then noon till 1:30 PM, M-F. Hit the food courts and
forget most of the rest of the stores.
Other good times: Tues-Thurs 630-8PM and Sat afternoons.
*Self-Improvement seminars
If you live anywhere NEAR a major U.S. city, chances are Tony
Robbins will be hosting an event. Now, I don”t think Tony is the
best seminar investment…MY seminars would fall into that
category.
However, his seminars are LOADED to the gunwales with
good-looking, SUGGESTIBLE women.
And hell, you don”t even have to actually sign up. Just find out
where they are being held, hang out in the lobby of the hotel and
swoop in on the women during the coffee, tea and dinner breaks.
Yoga Classes
Unbelievable amounts of hard-bodied, open-minded, amazing looking
and obscenely flexible women. Take a beginners class if you”ve
never done it before and you”ll met lots of women, who are also
VERY suggestible and open to “new ways” of thinking. Especially
look for a studio that is located near a coffee or tea place,
because many women will head over to such a place after a class
to refresh themselves.
OK, that”s it for now… look for the next issue where I will
continue on this theme of how to meet women, anytime, anywhere,
USING YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR!
Until then,
Piece and peace,
Ross
P.S. Want real success and power with the women of your choice,
instead of the women you have to settle for? Your Speed
Seduction? Home Study Course is waiting for you! Just go to
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Notice: All contents of this article are , Ross
Jeffries. This article may be reprinted, reposted or republished
in any format or forum, his seminars are LOADED to the gunwales with
good-looking, SUGGESTIBLE women.
And hell, you don”t even have to actually sign up. Just find out
where they are being held, hang out in the lobby of the hotel and
swoop in on the women during the coffee, tea and dinner breaks.
Yoga Classes
Unbelievable amounts of hard-bodied, open-minded, amazing looking
and obscenely flexible women. Take a beginners class if you”ve
never done it before and you”ll met lots of women, who are also
VERY suggestible and open to “new ways” of thinking. Especially
look for a studio that is located near a coffee or tea place,
because many women will head over to such a place after a class
to refresh themselves.
OK, that”s it for now… look for the next issue where I will
continue on this theme of how to meet women, anytime, anywhere,
USING YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR!
Until then,
Piece and peace,
Ross
P.S. Want real success and power with the women of your choice,
instead of the women you have to settle for? Your Speed
Seduction? Home Study Course is waiting for you! Just go to
http://www.seduction.com/products/rj87.asp today!
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