Anam Chara – Because you are enough

I find the word “because” one of the most interesting words in the English language. It is a word that can be used by way of explanation. However, it is a word that is very often used by way of excuse and rationalisation for actions not done.
Next time you find yourself using the word “because” reflect on the way in which you have used it. Are you answering a straight question of fact or are you making a statement about why something didn’t happen the way is was supposed to. Are you then simply making excuses and avoiding your responsibility.
This will be an uncomfortable exercise for many people. They will protest vehemently that there are all sorts of reasons why this and that did not happen. They have made the word “because” an excuse in itself.
If you are making an excuse you will feel divided at some level. You will experience a degree of defensiveness. Other feelings may include anger at you, guilt or resentment to name a few. These feelings are not comfortable. You make excuses in order to avoid these feelings. They impinge upon your sense of self worth. Over time you become more of an excuse than a creative being.
“Because” is a more positive word once you agree to change the way you view its structure. It can then be seen as the combination of the words “be” and “cause.” Looking at the word in this way then asks you to “become your cause”. This means that you then take full responsibly for the cause of your actions. These are the actions that cause your life to “be.”
You are rarely asked to consciously focus on a cause to which you will fully commit. I do not mean that you direct your energies, as so many today are willing to do, to cause that you would die for. I write about finding a cause that you will direct all your energies to living for.
Do not let your use of the word “because” become an excuse for staying tight within your comfort zones. Make yourself aware of its use in your vocabulary. Notice how subtlety it creates a dynamic of non-responsibility. Make your use of this word as limited as possible. It negates you being able to accomplish what you dream off.
If you analyse the use of this word you can make it the reason why you have not experienced gladness and fulfilment. It is connected another word. This is the word “Why.” This word “why” is usually answered by a “because” which is followed by another “why.” This cycle can be infinite.
“Because” will keep you focused in the past. “Be your cause” is future, positive, and pro-active. Your energies are focused into creating something that you value. You do not de value the experience of your past. You simply commit to letting it go and using it to fertilise the growth of your individuality.
“Because” can become an excuse for avoiding change. This change will come. Better to embrace it and create it in the way that gives meaning to your life. “Be your cause” and make your life matter.
Start today to notice how often you use this word and how often you notice others using it. The levels of its use clearly indicate the level to which an individual abdicates personal and full responsibility for their actions.
Ask yourself what cause you feel fully committed to and become one with it. This will give your life purpose and make your actions matter. Your life will then not be a series of excuses that you offer up as reasons for not becoming all that you can be. Remember that the Blessing is already here and you are it. You can be all you ever imagined you might be because you are “forever enough.”