Why is it when it comes to dating that we go from
one relationship right into another, searching for
something from someone that only God is capable of
giving us? Why do we think that leaping into
another courtship will change our thinking and
current situation in our lives?
We seem to have this delusion that we will live a happily ever
after if we just find someone that will tell
us what we want to hear and treat us the way we
want to be treated. Then when God does bring us
someone that tells the truth we find ourselves
uncomfortable and go to someone who makes us feel
better even though their not being honest with us.
While we should be with someone that treats us
nice and with respect, we should not compromise
our spiritual values with them. If we do, we will
continue to go down a very lonely road filled with
disappointments and frustrations, time and time
again only to point our finger at others,
ourselves and God.
The truth of the matter is until we acknowledge
that it’s our own relationship with Christ or lack
of and not others that is contributing to these
dead end relationships we will never experience
the true love that only Jesus Christ wants us to
have and can provide for us. However, this is the
road most choose not to travel. Why? Because it’s
got to many hills in it. We hit big pot holes and
it may take a few unexpected curves along the
way.
It’s easier to blame others and to have the
attitude that the world owes us someone. But in
the long run if we take God’s road it will get us
where we need to go, in much faster time and a
more forfilling journey. First, Gods road leads
us to having a loving relationship with Jesus
Christ, and second we experience a cup filled
relationship with the love of our life. The bible
says, “Seek ye first the kingdom and all other
things will be added unto you” When Jesus says
that, he means all things. We just may have to
travel down a road less traveled in order to get
them.
It sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? Though this
road is challenging to say the least. Why? because
we struggle with our fleshly desires to fill our
internal needs instead of our spiritual needs
filled by God. And our flesh will always be a
thorne to us. So going from one relationship
right into another won’t solve the difficulties we
seem to have in every relationship we experience.
If we really want a true test about our lives look
at the majority of our friends we hang with. How
are their relationships with others? If they are
having the same difficulties we are experiencing,
maybe that should tell you something about your
own life and where you are getting your
validations from. If we want to make a true change
in ourselves the majority of our friends and
resources must be those that are living Godly
lives, having relationships with others like we
desire to have, and telling us the truth in love,
when maybe we don’t want to hear it. Looking in
the mirror at ourselves is not easy, but it’s
necessary.
It really boils down to our mindset toward life
and having a lot of faith in Jesus Christ. Yes, we
may temporarily feel better about ourselves when
someone new in our life satisfies our egos, and
pride, but the emptiness will still be there. God
and life has a funny, yet sometimes painful way of
making us look in a mirror at our patterns of
relationships. If your tired, frustrated and even
lonely about going from one dead end relationship
to look at our own relationship with Jesus Christ.
Because, if you really think about, he’s our best
bet anyway. And he’ll be the one at the end of the
road less traveled filling our cups, not another
person.
Greg Ryan is a best selling author of the Changing from the INSIDE OUT series. A powerful five step plan to better your life, get healthier, and have more energy!
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