Suffering from premature ejaculation or having problems lasting during sex, you are far from being alone. Majority of males ejaculate faster than they want to and only small part of them do anything about it.
Maybe that”s the reason they say 80% women are looking for 20% males, I don”t know.
But I encourage you to use this as a motivation to become one of few men who can last as long as he chooses during sex and truly sexually satisfied any woman.
“Because Curing Premature Ejaculation Is Actually Easy.”
I define premature ejaculation as not being able to control when and if you ejaculate.
So even if you could last 20 minutes (which quite an achievement) but wanted to be able to last longer to satisfy your partner then I would consider you to suffer from premature ejaculation.
Healthy man can decide how long he lasts almost every time he makes love. He can move inside his partner for hours if he wants to or have a quickie few seconds score if he feels like it.
I know that this may seem unrealistic for you right now. But I assure you that being able to totally control your ejaculation is to be sexually healthy and anything else is not.
“So What Is It Then That Causes Such a Common Disfunction?”
To understand this you have to realize what happens as you go from non arousal to a screaming orgasm.
We could divide the arousal process into five stages …
1- You become aroused and hard and start moving around inside of her.
2- As you get more aroused the pleasure rises.
3- You reach the highest arousal level and the pleasure is indescribable.
4- You cross the point of no return, no matter what you do after this you will ejaculate.
5- The Ejaculation.
What ever causes your premature ejaculation the reason is always that you will jump too quickly from stage two to stage four. You actually miss out on the best part of the love making.
Men who can totally control their ejaculation process can stay in the intense third stage for as long as they want, while experiencing an amazing pleasure plus being able to keep it up long enough for their partner to reach a screaming orgasm.
“Two Reason Why Men Jump Too Quick.”
There are two major reason why so many men jump too quickly from small pleasure to ejaculation and skip the best part of the love making.
A- They are simple not aware of that they are reaching the danger zone. They forget them self in the pleasure and just dive right into the ejaculation.
This is especially true for inexperienced often younger men and with time and experience often gets resulted by it self.
B- Intolerance for the tension which forces you to run away into the ejaculation.
Making love can be very intense. Most of us can only take so much tension before we want to get an outlet for it in some way. In this case the ejaculation is the outlet.
If you have unresolved strong feelings when you are having sex, it will increase the tension and therefore quicken the premature ejaculation. This could be any kind of strong feelings.
You may have fear of getting her pregnant or you may be furiously angry at your boss. Any conscious or unconscious strong feeling will push you to ejaculate faster as the tension rises.
So which ever premature ejaculation treatment you choose has to increase your awareness of what is going on as you reach the point of no return and also increase your tolerance for the high level tension you are about to experience.
“Most Premature Ejaculation Treatments Won”t Work.”
For example desensitize devises are totally useless.
They aim at the wrong goal. Instead of increasing your awareness of what is going on, you will actually numb your self and not be aware as you jump from stage two to stage four.
I have actually not found anything as helpful as specially designed training exercises.
Exercises that will build your tolerance for increased tension and help you gain awareness of what goes on in your body as you move closer to the point of no return.
“You Have To Build Your Staying Stamina Step By Step.”
The thing is you have to reprogram both your body and your mind to be able to take it to last longer during sex.
This is almost like an athletic who builds up strength and endurance. But the exercises I”m talking about are way more pleasurable.
Next time you make love try to be aware when you feel that you are getting closer to ejaculation. Then just stop completely and don”t move at all.
If she moves just ask her to be still. Instead of moving talk to her. Tell her how beautiful she is and how much you care about her. Tell her how much you love to make love to her. This alone will give her an emotional orgasm.
Make the habit to talk more during sex than you usually do. Take the time for the foreplay and express your gratitude and love for her. This will help both you and her to relax.
If you want to you could bring her to orgasm before you stick it in. This will take the burden of you that you have to fulfill her during intercourse.
“You Can Also Build Your Tolerance While Masturbating.”
Next time you masturbate, take more time than you usually would. Arouse your self slowly and then stop as you get closer to orgasm. Then wait a little and start arousing your self slowly again until you again get close to orgasm. Feel the pleasure and take the time to really enjoy it. When you finally ejaculate, enjoy that too.
By using these simple methods you should be able to build up some staying power during love making. However for great results and to become a fabulous lover, you may want to check out my program The Ejaculation Master ( http://www.EjaculationMaster.com ) .
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