Persons who have an intimate connection with another live longer,
have less pain and recover faster. Their immune system operates
at a higher level then those without the intimacy and connection.
Relationship may be the central issue in all healing: male and
female, old and young, straight and gay. This has been shown to
me again and again in my medical intuitive and clairvoyant work
with clients.
There is an abundance of medical literature linking immune
response to supportive relationships, and would convince the most
ardent doubting Thomas to gather good friends and a significant
other. We need both intimacy and community to boost our immune
systems.
The idea is that intimacy-sensual, sexual intimacy (connecting to
someone on all levels) is a healing act. I believe all illness is
related in some degree to disconnection. In the body, illness
arises from cells that are disconnected. When you experience a
connection with someone, your immune system will function in a
more balanced way. When someone you care about lays their hands
upon you, the immune system functions more efficiently. We even
know through research, that the immune system of two people
living together for a long time begins to fall into synch.
Good relationships can communicate even non-locally. You can be
in New York and your partner can be in Los Angeles, and you can
connect. You can sense when it’s time to call that person. You
know when something needs to be done. That isn’t weird. It’s not
parapsychology; it’s para-intimacy.
Stanislav Grof, in Beyond the Brain, speaks of this as being
“characterized by extreme peace, tranquility, serenity, and
radiant joy. The individual involved experiences a blissful,
tension-free state, a loss of ego boundaries and an absolute
sense of oneness with nature, with the cosmic order, and with
God. A deep intuitive understanding of existence and a flood of
various specific insights of cosmic relevance are characteristic
for this condition.”
With this quality of communication our sexual relationships can
become greater vehicles for intimacy, self-knowledge, and
spiritual evolution. As you make love, look deeply into the eyes
of your beloved, and you’ll open to the most sublime experience
of intimacy.
Serious illness can be isolating and cause a loss of intimacy.
What do we need to do to be intimately connected to ourselves?
My definition of intimacy is having nothing to fear and nothing
to hide. Intimacy is being seen and known as the person you truly
are. It requires vulnerability, even at times when we don’t feel
safe. It requires attention to another person, as well as to our
own emotional well being, even when we feel that our own safety
is at risk. Intimacy requires the acknowledgment of difference,
even when we wish there were none.
Love and intimacy are at the root of what makes us sick and what
makes us well, what causes sadness and what brings happiness,
what makes us suffer and what leads us to healing.
2005 Christopher Stewart
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